It is Summer!!

My favorite part of summer is the lighter clothing, letting my feet breathe in sandals, summer mocktails (and an occasional cocktail), my annual painting retreat, and outdoor swimming.

What about you?

For many, summer means open schedules, adventures, vacations, hanging out with friends and family, and catching up with yourself.

But what if that’s not the case?

• For parents: This could mean spending more time with your kids and less time with yourself.
• If finances are tight: It could feel like being stuck at home.
• If you’re single: It might mean lacking the company you desire.
• Even with people and finances: You may not fully experience life’s pleasures, having to focus on what’s not working.

Summer shines a lot of light, sometimes obliterating what is there, sometimes burning away what was hiding. If there is a Mother Wound lurking, it will be felt.

Recognizing the Mother Wound

The Mother Wound manifests in various ways. In my book, I classify six common types, along with the attachment patterns we have experienced.

Taking an excerpt from my recent “Overcoming the Mother Wound” book, what if you are carrying a Mother Wound? Would you know if it is a wound, or would you believe that’s how you are and push forward? This sounds like a “Tough Guy” wound (non-gender specific).

Would you believe that other people can frolic in summer, but it’s okay if I hang back because others don’t really care if I am there or not, even though they say otherwise? This is the “Invisible” wound, born from needing to fend for oneself, not being a priority, and having feelings that were not acknowledged or validated.

Understanding the Mother Wound

A Mother Wound is a relational wound.

I did not invent the term “Mother Wound,” but I have experienced it, witnessed it, and worked with it. It is an early wound, one that comes in before we even know it is happening and is often classified as “Complex Trauma” for those clinicians reading.

The Path to Healing

Identifying its presence is crucial. When we can name it, we can tame it. Healing and taming are not the same, and this is a process. Similar to shame, Mother Wounds are not created in isolation, and neither are they healed in isolation.

The first step is to meet it, greet it, know it, and start to build a relationship with it. Sound easy? Yes and NO. The Mother Wound needs time, attention, and support. That is why I created a course and now a book to kickstart this journey for you. Where you go with it and how far you go with your healing journey is up to you.

I am here, as are my offerings, should you want to join my community and work with me.

Find out more here: Overcoming the Mother Wound Course.

Warm regards,

Mari Grande
LCSW-R, LCAT, ATR-BC, PsyA, EDMR, SEP

We are all beings of light on this blue planet, here to shine love on ourselves and each other.